Who Is Really A “Friend”?
An old friend of mine often pointed out that there were only 6 handles on a casket for good reason. Most of the time, the funeral parlor will still provide a couple of pallbearers.
Cavett Robert said: “The size of your funeral depends on the weather.” The same is true for the number of kids trick-or-treating at your house on Halloween.
One of the times I hope you or I never find out about true friends is when you get sent to prison. I’ve visited and provided money for not one but two friends who suffered that. Both had positively influenced the lives of tens of thousands. One had 6 visitors in 5 years and only one of those visitors was multiple times…Me… Another guy, much the same. The highlight of his month (every month) was me bringing him a cold, hand-searched-by-the-guards Wendy’s cheeseburger. Think about that.
Warren Buffet says he remembers asking that question “How do you define friendship?” to a woman who had survived Auschwitz. She said her test was: “Would they hide me”. If that doesn’t send a chill up your spine, I wonder what would.
The truth is that most people are “friends as long as you feed them.” This is true of all of your employees as well. Watch what happens when you stop paying them.
I’ve always advised that if you hit the lottery, before going public, call every single friend and relative you know and ask for a loan for an undisclosed emergency. Ask for enough that you know would stretch them but they could make it happen. You’ll find your friends. Then go public.